Walk The F*CK Away.
The title of this blog post may seem a little intense but I’m standing by it. When you want to evolve quickly… as a human, as a leader, as a business… you have to learn to let go of things that weigh you down and keep running forward towards greater abundance, joy, and peace. If you’re all, “I don’t look forward. I live in the moment” then AWESOME! You too should totally let go of the bullshit so you can enjoy the moment you’re in. It’s so hard to live fully and beautifully when you allow others to crowd your space with their nonsense. Sure, people are people (all of us included) and nonsense abounds, but allowing it to exist, grow, THRIVE in our spheres is a great way to drain yourself of all of your vital energy so you feel stuck, tired, stressed, and small. It will hold you back more than almost anything else I can conjure.
My coach and friend has been encouraging me lately to let that shit gooooooo! When a client is not a fit, let them go. When a collaborator, contractor, employee is not a fit? Let them go. When a relationship is upsetting more than it’s uplifting? Let it go.
“But Meg! What if that person stops liking me? What if they talk bad about me? What if it upsets them???”
You don’t owe your energy, explanations or ongoing support to anyone. You really don’t. You owe your energy & support to yourself and to your chosen family and to anyone else you CHOOSE to inhabit your world. Otherwise, stop wasting your precious thoughts, emotions, and heart on those who don’t return the favor, take you for granted, and treat you unkindly. E.N.O.U.G.H.
Upon request from a client I recorded a bonus podcast episode on this very topic that will drop on Friday! The usual episode will show up on time Wednesday. <3 I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and I want you to take one thing away from this blog post and Friday’s episode… one thing: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
If you’re up to big things then people will come out of the woodwork to treat you terribly… one after another… they will love to talk about community, inclusion, the sisterhood, feminism, and the like but sometimes they will not practice those things. They will break their contracts. They will gossip in groups behind your back. They will feel it’s okay if you’re successful because “you can handle it”. They will unfollow. Unsubscribe. They will troll. They will complain. They will blame. They will act entitled. All of these things will happen on the road to you becoming a beam of bright light in the world and many of these things will come from those who you’ve invested in, loved, supported, paid, and actively promoted. That will be the toughest part of it all. It will come from the ones you loved.
I was talking to a client this week who I adore and she was sharing about a conflict with another business owner in the community. She was trying with all of her might to be loving, professional, and assertive but nothing was working. A barrage of hate just came flooding back to her each and every time. She asked me, “Why? Why does this happen to me?” And I’ll tell you why… because she’s a leader. She’s empathetic, smart, and an excellent communicator. She’s compassionate, generous, and forgiving. She’s all of these things and she has low boundaries. They’re just not high enough. Or strong enough. And that’s her work.
Let’s be up to big things and learn to say “no”. Goodbye. Thank you but not today. The bullshit can spin outside our doors.
We have work to do.
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